![]() When you’re feeling like a failure it’s hard to see anything you do as an achievement. If you don’t, your worries will collide into one big catastrophe. Instead of waiting until the moment you crash, pencil that time in to slow down. You have a meeting to go to, a date, a gym session, a friend’s birthday. Life is fast-paced and when you’re hit by anxiety and stress there’s often not a lot of time to do anything about it. You can’t be perfect at something right away. Starting a new job, for example, and becoming good at that job is inevitably going to include mistakes. We’re often so consumed by our goals and how we’re going to achieve them but often the only way to do just that is to fail at them. Let yourself screw up sometimes, it’s one of the most liberating things there is. It’s more important that I know what those things are and I can turn to them when things get rough. I also love doing things alone like going to art galleries or the cinema, which some people thing is a bit lonely and sad. I love playing the Sims I love organising my books in alphabetical order. Some of those things might not seem like any one else’s cup of tea: I love watching Real Housewives on repeat. Treat yourself to the things that you love. Don’t be ashamed about the things that do make you happy Simona Strazdaite / EyeEm // Getty ImagesĢ. There’s an interception a new location to stimulate my brain. It sounds like a small thing, but leaving my room in those moments - even if it’s just to go to the park or walk down the street or sit in someone else’s bedroom - it means the whirlpool of doom in my head goes on a little break. I trap myself in my own inability to see any hope in my future. When I’m depressed my bedroom becomes a gloomy cave where I’m lucky if I even get up to brush my teeth. Change your environmentīad behaviours are often linked to the environment we’re in. The good news is that there are some little things you can do to make things that a tiny bit more okay when depression or anxiety (or both) hits. In the real world you have a job to go to and bills to pay. We don’t live in rom com where big changes lead to meeting cutes and falling in love and learning things about yourself. Problem is, our lives leave little room for drastic life decisions. The only way you feel like you can break out of your doomsday cycle is to make a drastic life decision like quit your job or move to the Bahamas. ![]() Things have begun to unravel, you’re sad, and you're scared you’re on the verge of some thing awful. One day you were feeling fine and the next day you feel depressed. The fact is, it is this way, and acceptance allows us at least to begin doing whatever we need to do from where we are.Sometimes things just aren’t going so great. We’re stuck in an argument with the universe or whomever, that this is not supposed to be happening, all of which is energy down the drain. We waste so much energy fighting with the fact that this situation is actually happening that we don’t apply our most useful energy and intention to what we want or can do about it. As a good friend said, the situation will change or you will change, but change will happen. ![]() And paradoxically, that yes then frees us up to start changing the situation or changing ourselves in relation to it. When we practice acceptance, we’re just saying one thing: yes, this is happening. Seen in this light, our refusal to accept reality has a kind of insanity to it. We refuse to allow what’s already been allowed. What we’re fighting against is already here. What’s comical is that our refusal to accept what is involves a fight against what already is. ![]()
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